Pleasure is Power
Sexology & Embodiment Coaching
Have the hot sex you’ve been dreaming of without feeling weird about it.
Befriend your body without changing anything about it.
Reclaim your sovereignty and power without burning your whole world down.
Sex is a funny thing, isn’t it?
Everybody came into this world because of it, but we still feel so scared to think about it or talk about it or want it. It can be especially challenging for those of us who were raised in high control religion or in socially conservative parts of the world to feel like our sexuality is important enough to give time and attention to.
In fact, a lot of people who experienced the impact of Purity Culture* don’t give themselves permission to enjoy their bodies at all. So often, we repress our body-mind connection because we have been trained to believe that our bodies are not a safe place to live. We have been taught that we need to make our bodies subject to the capitalist or patriarchal structures in which we survive.
When we cut ourselves off like this, we lose a crucial connection to our birthright as humans - to enjoy our bodies and our lives on this planet. We get bogged down in external demands and relentlessly try to shape ourselves to what we imagine other people or society as a whole expects (demands) us to be. We lose touch with our embodied wisdom - our intuition and instincts - and instead direct our lives based on the requirements of institutions that were not designed with most of us in mind. Heck, even the people the institutions and systems were made by and for are harmed by them and experience similar alienation from self.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
It is possible to reclaim your sovereignty as a human being. It is possible to reconnect the parts of yourself you have locked away far from your awareness. It is possible to open your life back up and live in your own capable, magical body.
*Purity Culture is a super devastating set of beliefs and practices that require people to repress their sexual and other urges, needs, and desires. People who endure this kind of oppressive environment during the crucial years of natural human sexual development often experience similar outcomes as people who experience sexual abuse or sexual assault. For many reasons, including these outcomes, I contend that Purity Culture is child abuse. If you were raised in Purity Culture, you are not alone, and you can experience healing and renewal in all the areas of your life. I believe that healing is best delivered through embodiment work, and direct attention and care to your unique sexual self.
I am currently pursuing sexology, relationship and consensual nonmonogamy coaching certifications through Sexual Health Alliance. Board Certified Apprenticed Sexologist. Anticipated graduation in early 2026.
Sarai and her cat, Butterfinger gaze at you lovingly.
Free Private Podcast Series:
Your Own Divnity
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sexology and embodiment coach
Finding Freedom Through Liberating The Body
As a survivor of high control religion and the repression, compulsory heterosexuality, and self-policing, I have spent the past 15 years learning to feel my own body. This practice undergirds everything else I do - and it has since the work began. I use my own experience, body-based energetic healing practices (Reiki and yoga), and sexual education as well as business, political, career, and spirituality wisdom for the post-religious or mind-body disconnected person.
rituals and rites
Making Meaning In Our Daily Lives and in the Crucial Moments of Birth, Life, and Death
As a fully deconstructed, post christian eclectic witch, my work still centers on creating meaning and honoring transitions, growth, changes, in the day to day as well as the unique occasions we mark in our lives. These rites include traditional observations such as marriage, parenthood, and death. They also include co-creation of rites that include other significant experiences such as a first menstrual cycle, gender affirming rites and renaming ceremonies, pregnancy loss, career transitions, divorce, and other moments of meaning you want to recognize.
speaking and workshops
Connecting the Mind, Body, and Spirit to Support Meaningful Work
See a few brief samples of my speaking work below. Topics and details can be found by clicking the button below.
If you’re ready to reclaim your body as your own and your self as a free and sovereign being
watch: leave in love
Learn more about Leave in Love - so you can leave behind situations, patterns, and beliefs that don’t serve you without burning out or burning sh*t down.
watch: how to use your three brains
We all have three brains - head, heart, and gut - but in western culture, we really only listen to the head brain. This short talk introduces your three brains and shares how you can access the two-thirds of your wisdom that has most likely been locked away for some time.
*a quick note -- this talk features me thoughtlessly saying a gendered remark "It's perfectly normal for boys and girls your age..." which was pointed out to me by a brilliant trans human whose work and courageous humanity I admire. Thank you to Lindo for helping me internalize the practice of moving away from gendered terminology and toward inclusion.
I keep this video as is because it is a part of my growth trajectory and a good way to see that sometimes we get it wrong, and we can learn to do better as we go. For my beautiful nonbinary buddies, this is an acknowledgement of my mistake and a promise to continue to do better all the time.